This JUST sucks...

So W went for blood tests this morning. Ended up paying $71.90 to have 3 blood test taken. Because we needed the results today, and because the clinic is in another city (which makes no sense, province health care, is province health care). W got the call this afternoon. Here's the conversation:

W: Good afternoon, W speaking.
Nurse: Hi W, how are you today?
W: Tired, thanks for asking.
Nurse: So we got your results and passed them though Dr. Beep, and he figures you have already ovulated since you are on CD20.
W: Ok, so...
Nurse: That means you will need to do this again when you get your next period.
W: Oh (hesitation), ok.
Nurse: So just give us a call when you have your next period. W, have a good weekend!

BULL-SHIT! Have a good weekend? How are we supposed to have a good weekend after that news? We ovulated, but the OPK (ovulation predictor kit) didn't pick up the LH surge?

Finally a ray of hope, and within one conversation disappointment runs through the veins....

$84.00 worth of OPKs
$20 worth of clomid
$71.90 worth of blood tests
And nothing but disappointment.

W is feeling a little depressed right now...Nothing that alcohol can't cure. :-)

We'll just crawl back and curl up in our hole now,
classless,
W & H
xoxo

I'm late, I'm late...for a very important date.

It's CD19 and still no sign of ovulation. Are we out of the woods yet, or is it about time to start blaming Clomid?


It's hard enuf not being able to have children, but it's even harder when you finally get to that spot where you get a glimpse of hope from the wonderful world of science (IUI, IVF) and BAM...your monthly cycles don't happen as they should. I ovulate regularly, so why is it taking so long for me to ovulate?


Altho as we've mentioned before, we don't make our highs too high, nor our lows to low so we aren't disappointed if something doesn't go our way....And we are fairly laid back...Que Sera, Sera...But...


...on this given day, we decided to play hooky from work just for some peace and quiet. Time to spend together dealing with emotions.



ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH, This is so frustrating.

Like whatever...

Can someone explain to me how an 19 year old boy with no education, and no current job can afford a Cadillac SUV? (Come on....you stereotype too!!)

Maybe because his income starts with D and rhymes with rugs.

Where are the cops when you need them? Giving out traffic tickets that's what!

Patience is NOT a virtue...

So we are on cycle day 15 (CD15), meaning if W periods are normally 28 days apart then she would have ovulated on CD14 (yesterday). But she hasn't. I hope that clomid has just extended ovulation arrival, and not skipped it all together.

We are impatient...

How rude...Stop being so ignorant!

They say that chances are you might know someone going through infertility, or you might know someone who knows someone....8-15% of couple in Canada are infertile. Infertility is a very long and painful journey to go through and people can be very hurtful without even knowing it. So we thought we'd lay some ground rules for all of you that don't know what to say to someone that has infertility or is trying to conceive(TTC):

1. Don't belittle their issue - Just because they can't have kids doesn't give you the right to say "Think of how much money you can save" or "How can you be busy, you don't have kids".
2. Don't play the God card - "God didn't mean for you to be parents" or "Maybe God isn't ready for you to be pregnant yet". This has nothing to do with God. It's a medical problem. End of story!
3. Don't tell the whole world. Treatments and tests are a very private and embarrassing matter.
4. Give support not opinions - Don't offer suggestions right away, like adoption, IVF, Foster care. Chances are...the couple has already discussed these options.
5. Don't tell them there are people worse off, or there are worse things - Like what? Having a loved one die? Having your house burn down? Losing your job?
6. Don't treat us like we don't know anything about being parents - That doesn't mean that an infertile couple doesn't know what parenting is all about. Obviously when you become a parent you are more likely to realize the responsibilities that come with parenting. If anything the infertile have more time to "prepare" themselves for parenting (whether that be reading books, watching family and friends raise their children).
7. Don't play Doctor. Most couples would have gone through all the tests to explain their outcome of infertility. Don't assume that you know better.
8. And finally...Don't tell them to relax! You have no idea what they are going through.

There are plenty of other things you can avoid saying, and plenty of other things you could do...But these 8 will suffice.

Infertility is not only physically uncomfortable, it's emotional draining, and monetarily taxing.

• Couples bodies are explored in any and every way possible while figuring out the diagnosis.
• Most couples at some point will seek professional help (psychologists, psychiatrists, etc)
• Heath Care in Canada doesn't support infertility treatments for a number of different reasons. It can be anywhere from a couple hundred to 5 figures +.

Hope this helps you out if you ever encounter a friend or family member who has gathered the courage to tell you their issues. Be kind.....Be supportive.

All our Love,

Tucan
xoxo

Somebody's pregnant I wonder who?

Well it's not us, that's a for sure!
But the guy that W works with...finally told us they are pregnant. While the pang of envy comes up to slap us in the face once again, that doesn't take our excitement away from the happy couple. Congratulations to them.
It will be 7 weeks or so before they test to ensure that nothing went wrong with IVF, and to ensure nothing goes wrong.
They have a choice in front of them....They put in 3 embryos, so there may be up to 3 beans growing in there. Good luck to you guys!

Is it hot in here?

Wow! Does anyone else feel the effects of clomid? Hot flashes!

Now I have finally realized what to expect when menopause hits.

Don't break the rules...

Well it's official! Here are the rules of the road

1. Start taking 2 x 50 mg of clomid starting today


2. Take your clomid until Oct 18 (CD7)


3. Make love on Oct 20


4. Start testing with an OPK on Oct 21


5. Wait until the LG line display is darker than the line already showing


6. Call into fertility clinc before 8:30 am


7. Travel to the fertility clinic (3 hrs away)

Easy enough isn't it.

Hubby is getting super excited, and it's nice to see him pasionate about something; I on the other hand keep us grounded. We musn't let our highs get too high or our lows too low...Or else we end up in a spiral of therapy...

Well it's voting day here in Canada..Go Conservatives!

Is anyone else tired?

Wow...I knew there was a reason for being so tired....Aunt Flo came to visit!

On our way TTC...

Thinking about the hopeful couple...

So member a few posts ago when we were actually at the Fertility clinic in another city? Well we say in the waiting room a guy W works with. How embarrassing. After about 5 minutes, W went over to quietly chat with him. They were onto IVF, and they we doing the transfer.

Well he's finally back to work, and here's the update:

3 fertilized, and they transferred all 3. They are back home and will find out early next week if any of them are making a miracle baby. We wish them all the luck and really hope they get preggers.

Happy Birthday to you...

It's H birthday today. He turns 40. Lordy, Lordy.....

A Chili Sunday...

What a glorious Sunday! Made a Turkey chili from scratch, and a critic for our food we invited over W 90 year old Grannie. So here's our spread:
-Turkey Chili with all the fixins
- Tomato Salad
-Ancient grains bread
-Peas and Corn

Conversations with Grannie are always entertaining. She loves talking about the good ol days. So most of the dinner conversation was about her life growing up. What we did find out:
1) Her mum baked 16 loaves of bread every week in a outdoor clay oven (It was a family of 18)
2) They had no drinking water on the farm. They had to bring it in by the barrels.
3) They didn't have a bath, weather permitting they were able to clean themselves in the local lake, but for the other months of the year they used to clean themselves with a damp cloth around the back of the barn.
4) Their meals mostly consisted of bread, chicken, perogies, potatoes, geese and homemade kobasa.
5) Her mother was a mid-wife and when delivering the neighbours baby it was born deaf and dumb, and no one was sure if it was a male or a female. So the family family decided it was going to be a boy.
6) They stored their cold food in a cellar underground. The men in the winter would go to the lake and cut 20 foot blocks of ice to keep the cellar cold year round.

This was a very common way of living back in the 20's, and I suppose like 3rd world countries today. So then why are we here in North America so selfish and greedy?

Times back then were simpler, and people were more thankful for what they had instead of complaining of what they don't have. You may want the newest IPOD or blue-ray disk, or maybe even the top laundry machines on the market, but sometimes you need to take a step back and look how far we've come...and just be thankful for what you have. Instead of wishing for the newest and most expensive just for the status...

Grannie briefly touched on the subject of laziness. Back in the day if your farm work was done you travelled to your neighbours farm to help him out without being asked to. Now-a-days people won't work an extra 5 minutes at work without wanting to be compensated.

Gone are the days of common sense, thankfulness and courtesy... I'd like to know when we became a lazy, selfish, greedy society? We're almost embarrassed to say we are part of it....Do we blame the parents, the greedy, the media or Hollywood? Perhaps all of them...

All our love,
Tucan
xoxo